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This week I kept coming back to one sentence from a California state worker.
She was talking about the new return-to-office policy — thousands of state employees moved from two days in office to four. There is a lot to say about that kind of policy. People will debate productivity. Collaboration. Fairness. Whether it helps or hurts.
But none of those arguments were what stayed with me.
This sentence did:
“It’s hard, it changes life completely. Financially it’s a strain, and everything is already stretched to the nines.”
I want to sit with that for a minute.
Because when a decision changes on paper, the cost does not stay on paper.
And for a lot of people, that space is already thin.
Here is what I notice about the Bandwidth Tax™ in moments like this one:
It is rarely announced.
It moves in quietly, through the adjustments we make that we tell ourselves are not a big deal.
And sometimes we do make it work. That is part of the problem.
High-functioning people can absorb a lot before anyone notices the cost. We rearrange the schedule. We shift the money. We stay up later. We keep performing. We keep showing up.
But absorbing a cost is not the same as being unaffected by it.
That distinction matters more than I think we are usually taught.
When a commute gets longer, the visible issue is transportation. The hidden issue is recovery time.
When someone comes home with less patience, less energy, less room for the rest of life — that does not always show up on a dashboard. But the cost is still there.
This week’s clue is an invitation to look at your own life without judgment.
Where has something been added that you keep telling yourself should not be a big deal?
Where are you spending more money, more time, more energy, or more emotional capacity than you used to?
Where have you adjusted so many times that the adjustment now feels normal?
The question is not whether organizations should ever make hard decisions. They will. They have to.
The better question is whether the decision accounts for the people who will carry the operational weight of making it work.
Because when that weight is invisible, you may think the change was successful simply because people complied.
This week I am leaving you with one question — and it is for all of us:
That question is for employees and founders. For leaders and caregivers. For parents and workers. For anyone carrying responsibility inside systems that keep asking for more.
Because every decision reallocates capacity.
The question is whether we are willing to notice who is paying.